One word: garlic.

Clifford...wow that is one motivated conversationalist. Thank goodness for those cheap earbuds. Jbow, Rain, I don't like the loud either.
 
 I work at a place where there are undoubtedly some of the prettiest girls you ever will see. Now I am happily married and well past any interest in looking for any more than the occasional glance at one who stands out a little but even then I only glance appreciate and move on. I am here to get something done and stay out of trouble lol......OTOH my coworker REALLY appreciates some of the views here and he says it LOUD in the summer with the windows open. We are moving along at 5mph with no other noises around and he will say LOUD, man did you see the ***** on that one or wow! look at the **** on her, she could really put a hurtin' on ya........when he does that I want to go hide somewhere, I know at least a few surrounding people heard it and I would really like to keep my job know what I mean?  One of these days I am afraid it will get us into some trouble. I think he is slightly hard of hearing and I have hinted that he may want to tone it down a little bit.

Truckermusic


You know we have some one in our office who just does not know how or when or why to shut up.......the mouth goes and goes and goes and goes......it doesn't say anything.....but it still goes....

90% of the time she does not know what she is talking about....does not even have a clue ...but that does not stop the mouth from going because "she is the expert"...

One time while she was talking to me and I could not stand it any more I just blurted out...."GO AWAY!"..............and still the mouth kept on going!

Next I said" SHUT UP!"..............and the mouth kept on talking as if nothing had happened....

I walked back to my desk, sat down, put some ear phones in, turned up my MP3 player and the mouth stood there and kept going for an additional 10 or so minutes!!!!!  Did not even get the hint!!!!!

unreal.......totally unreal.......

I've watched her start a conversation with one person, and when a different person walks by she will drop the first person and take up where she left off while walking behind the 2nd person......and this continued for an hour or so.....going back and forth between different people with the very same conversation.......

Now a days I just walk straight pass her, don't say a word cause if I do.....I will be lucky if I can get away with in the hour.....

So my advice....just walk away....they may not even notice that your gone!

Clifford

funny you should say that.  we have one in our office as well.  and his name is Tom.  but we all call him "Cliff" 
 
not after you, of course, but after Cliff Claven from Cheers! 

You know we have some one in our office who just does not know how or when or why to shut up.......the mouth goes and goes and goes and goes......it doesn't say anything.....but it still goes.... 90% of the time she does not know what she is talking about....does not even have a clue ...but that does not stop the mouth from going because "she is the expert"... One time while she was talking to me and I could not stand it any more I just blurted out...."GO AWAY!"..............and still the mouth kept on going! Next I said" SHUT UP!"..............and the mouth kept on talking as if nothing had happened.... I walked back to my desk, sat down, put some ear phones in, turned up my MP3 player and the mouth stood there and kept going for an additional 10 or so minutes!!!!! Did not even get the hint!!!!! unreal.......totally unreal....... I've watched her start a conversation with one person, and when a different person walks by she will drop the first person and take up where she left off while walking behind the 2nd person......and this continued for an hour or so.....going back and forth between different people with the very same conversation....... Now a days I just walk straight pass her, don't say a word cause if I do.....I will be lucky if I can get away with in the hour..... So my advice....just walk away....they may not even notice that your gone! Clifford

 
Don't ya'll have anyone in charge there? I mean like a BOSS who can fire people who walk around and talk instead of work. Geez...
 
Julien

Julien, you are soo much like me, it's scary. Each time I read one of your posts where you express some sort of feeling or emotion, you're me to the "T"! Or wait, maybe I'm you. LOL!

I must admit I'm a talker, but only when I'm talking about something important, something I feel strongly about or something that is more of a lesson or a teaching so to speak. I'm not one of those guys that interrupts or keeps going on and on, but I do get a little excited sometimes and really get into whatever I'm talking about. I'm sure it may annoy some people but I don't try to. Sort of like my message comments here. I know quite a few people see comments from me and just never read. Sorry about that...but oh well. 

Julien, all I can say is God bless you man. I really don't think I could be married to anyone like that. No offense to your wife at all, honest, I just don't think that would be something I could handle "forever". I once met a gal years ago. One of the most beautiful girls I ever dated. As beautiful inside as she was out. Great family values, Italian and all that goes with it (good cook, overly affectionate, caring for others more than herself, religious and spiritual but not a fanatic etc) but she had this problem I just couldn't deal with.

She could talk and used a circular breathing technique with it. I literally used to say "breathe woman, breathe!" LOL! But, as much as I try to ignore this flaw, it really tested my patients in many aspects of life. Sometimes when driving to a place, I like to take in the view...the awesome scenary, the aspect of driving and I don't like to get super deep in a conversation to where I have to try and pick my places to jump in to say something.

When going to a movie or watching a movie from home, I always and I mean ALWAYS had to see it again when she wasn't around. I don't watch much TV but when I do, I like to really get into it and experience the story. Impossible to do when she was around. I couldn't even rest my eyes without her wanting to touch me or talk about something. It just got to be too much so one day, I told her about it.

I tried as hard as I could to tread softly but of course it started a fight and then my flaws were brought up...which of course, you know, I really don't have any anyway...lol....just kidding. :) But I sincerely don't think I do anything (other than work a bit too much) that would annoy someone enough to not want to get involved with me. But I wasn't the problem here....and she sort of was trying to involve me.

Needless to say, we decided it was best for us not to see each other anymore. It's a shame really because the chemistry was there and I may regret it someday. But I just couldn't deal with it as much as I tried. I love to talk....I love to communicate, I don't mind a woman badgering me or needing to talk, I don't mind starting my time with her saying "so how was your day dear?" and meaning it while wanting to be involved in her world. I don't mind the "time of month" emo sessions and am always extra affectionate during those times. Heck, if I had that for 5-7 days and had horrible cramps and didn't die, you better believe I'd be one emo person with a chip on my shoulder. LOL!

But that said, I think there comes a time when too much talking and not enough breathing is just a nuisance. It really pains me to say that, but it's how I feel. After a while, something needs to be said. I tried to be nice while maintaining honesty. I'd rather go out knowing I tried and talked about a situation over just settling/dealing with it and hating every moment. I think anyone in a situation like this to where it makes them cringe, needs to just try and communicate. Sometimes people can't see their own flaws. I don't like to annihilate a person's character unless I feel backed into a corner with no other choice. I know I wouldn't like it. but how else can you mention this without really hurting someone deep? Be that as it may, I would WANT the women I end up with to talk to me if there is something that she finds highly annoying.

I met a girl one time that really hated smoking. I told her I enjoyed smoking but promised to never do it in front of her. I was so true to my word, I think I only smoked a few times in the 3 years I dated her while at a party or something outside. She never saw me light up but once and she allowed it lol.

So I have no problems accommodating someone, but sheesh...it's nice when you can speak your mind and you get a little help from the other side instead of a reverse attack. God bless anyone that can handle this sort of thing...because as much as it pains me, I so cannot no matter how hard I try. Everyone has different thresholds for how they take something...this is one thing I just have a problem with. :(
 
Starise, I say communicate if possible while being as kind as you can...if it fails, and continues to bother you, it's time for something a bit more honest and straight to the point. Sometimes you even make out pretty good in situations like this. I had a friend that cried all the time that he couldn't get girls. One day I told him "you need to fix your teeth bro, (he could bite a sandwich from across the room) your speech is very lazy, (we found out he was near deaf in one ear) your hygiene is not very good, you're drunk and obnoxious all the time and some new clothes and style would really be a plus."

He got braces and fixed his teeth, he had an ear operation, he went to speech therapy, cleaned himself up and did a total turn-around with the hygiene, quit drinking and really became the awesome person I knew he could be. Now I take advice from him. :) To this day, he thanks me for having the guts to tell it like it was...and let me tell ya, they were some of the most personal comments I had ever made to a person.

-Danny

jbow


You have to remember the first rule of the happy home life: If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!

My wife is a "frequent talker".
1: She changes subjects in the middle of a conversation.
2: Gives her commentary while somone else is giving the facts (or the real commentary) on TV.
3: She begins talking before she gets in the room or when she hears me coming. (I never know what she is saying or talking about).
4: She talks to herself. In the kitchen when I am in the den, just loud enough so I can hear.
It is all maddening but it will never stop.
 
If she is talking while some talking head is saying something I am interested in, I usually say STOP. If it is the same thing I have heard 100 times in response to some similar thing, I just say OK, over an over, until she stops. When she starts talking when I am not in the room I use my most frequently use word... "WHAT"?
My hearing is not the best and I have a hard time understanding either one when two people are talking at once.
If I am doing something that requires no talking, like reading or recording I tell her in advance to please not talk to me while I am doing this. If I am reading or studying something I will completely lose my train of thought if someone talks to me and will have to go back a ways to get my place again.
 
One of the things that bothers me the most is when we/if we are watching something on TV and I go to the hall bath for a quick weewee... inevitably she will laugh loud and long. Then when I get back say, "roll it back you have got to see this". It is never anything any different than the other tripe but I usually just play along. I know it is harmless and she is well meaning and I know she loves me so I put up with most of it and just go along. It would be really petty of me to complain all the time... however I usually DO say something if she starts talking to me before I get in the room or when she talks to herself and I have to ask if she is talking to me.
 
I think one of the hardest things for a man to learn is that a woman has a primal need to tell and to ask, either when she gets home or when you get home. She will ask a bunch of questions most of which will have an answer of yes or no. If someone calls, she will ask, "who was that"? A: "Smith". What did he say? A: "nothing"... "well I know they didn't say nothing..."  
You have to find a balance between a mans tendency to want to say nothing and know nothing and a womans need to tell and know everything.
 
Bottom line... I am pretty sure ALL women are frequent talkers.
 
J

nope - not mine.  her sister, however, is EXACTLY as you describe! 
 
during Thanksgiving we go to my wife's sisters' house.  in order to have any input into the conversation, you HAVE to interrupt her or she would carry the entire conversation by herself!
 
my wife, on the other hand, nope.  she's not a talker at all.  in fact, other than the fact that she's definitely a beautiful woman - she's more like a guy than many guys I know.  One year for Christmas she wanted an air compressor and nail gun so she could finish the crown molding in her room. 

You'd love this house then....


Audrey and I love to yap...and boy, do we yap!! LOL!!!


Mind, we now have 3 cats in here that do the same thing, so our house would probably be  bit much for some here....


But seriously, it really depends on your patience threshold...I work with a lot of elderly people in my business...of course, that being healthcare, and so that can be a little draining at times...many of them simply do not have a lot of folks who will communicate with them...so...here I come....boing...all of a sudden there they go...talk talk talk...