OT - my son and my custody/visitation battle

Some of you know about this. I've been fighting a legal battle for 26 months. I was accused falsely by my ex of "threatening" my son because I joked with him on a phone call that I was going to hang him upside down by his feet and beat him with a belt, and then I laughed and he laughed because he knows I don't spank him, and it's just a joke I played with him.

His mother was recording the conversation, and called 911, and had me arrested. Then filed for full custody and an increase in child support over the 1,400 dollars a month she currently receives. I could not see my son for 10 months. Couldn't even talk to him for 4... The criminal case was dismissed/never went to trial, however, that was "15 thousand dollars" for the attorneys, the same ones who got Ray Louis off when he stabbed that guy in Atlanta?

Then she lost the full custody battle, and the child support increase. However, I've had supervised visitation for a year and a half... Which severely limited the time I could spend with my son.

Today, on the last hour, of the last day, before our court date tomorrow AM, they agreed to normal unsupervised overnight visitation because that's what the judge was going to rule based on reports from the psychologists involved. 

My only child/son
26 months...
70,000 dollars total...
25% of my young son's life...

Finally ends tomorrow AM when I get the signed document from the court.

I would not recommend standing next to this woman in an electrical storm... 

 
I'm really pleased for you Robby
 
Make the most of every second you spend with your son - he's lucky to have a dad like you.
 
 

Is there a song in this somewhere?

Guitarhacker


Is there a song in this somewhere?

          Could be the song "HERE COME'S THE JUDGE "

Yeah man :-) I was in court today... Getting the signed and stamped paperwork :-) Next Friday I pick him up from school and bring him back to his mother Sunday at 6:00 :-) We're going to have a good time! We're going to ride bikes, frizbee golf, bowl, play tennis :-) Video games, Jinga, build a lego fighter, and THAT is just SATURDAY! :-)

Janet



 
I guess that means no more scary songs like "Missing Person" anymore too?

You know how to hurt a guy when he's down Janet!

LOL!

Whew! And I thought I was the king of one liners. I bow before thee m' lady.

Is your ex-wife's name Jody by chance? LOL! This is sounding all too familiar.

I had this super long email typed, chock full of advice for you, but I decided to delete it because it was TMPI.

Here's the condensed version ...

I have every conversation I ever had with my daughter and ex-wife since I left 11 years ago recorded. If I didn't have those recordings I wouldn't be here right now talking to you.

Be afraid Robby. Be very afraid. Don't trust your son, your ex-wife, the authorities, ANYBODY. Get it? She's going to screw with you until the day you die. The second your son goes back home she's going to probe him for every thing she can get out of him and twist it around in his head until he actually believes what she tells him happened, happened.

It doesn't matter what you say or do, once an accusation is made, you are screwed with a capital F. Fortunately my x was ignorant enough to take detailed "notes" and when they didn't coincide with the actual "audio" recordings of her own voice, she was sent packing with her tail between her hind legs.

I don't know you, you do what you want, but I'm telling you this is not going to turn out good for you. Consider having a non-involved third party witness stay with you while he's visiting.

Bub.

This kind of thing sort of makes me feel better about the fact that no woman would ever sleep with me.

At least you didn't get jail time for the mix of Missing Person.

Janet


At least you didn't get jail time for the mix of Missing Person.

Thank God he didn't write 'I Used To Love Her, But I Had To Kill Her'.

chuckebaby

i guess when were upstairs we dont really get to see who the real "us" are?..nice to come down here and get to see who some of you really are..but as for you bud...great post..im with you a 100 percent on this.

I think everyone goes through this to some extent when they get divorced, well, at least men do. Women are wicked by nature when scorn. Men just like to move on, and the ones who don't end up writing songs like Missing Person. Doh! j/k. ;) My x had a reputation for this kind of behavior before I met her, and continued to do so long after we split so I've heard, so it's my own fault. I should have known better than to got involved with someone like that in the first place. But hey, I was 19 and nobody could tell me anything. :)

As for what you said about upstairs, nah, I disagree with you. There's been some doozy's told up there. Did you see the drunk stories thread, or the one of that guy who's ex showed up out of the blue one day and told him he had a 1 year old he didn't know about? HEHE! Very entertaining! :) I gave him the same advice as I gave Robby, "RUN FOREST RUN!" :)

dlogan

Janet


At least you didn't get jail time for the mix of Missing Person.

Good thing YoYo isn't a cop!!

No kidding!  :-)

In marriage there are 2 sides to every story.  In families, there are multiple sides, IMHO.

I've seen biological fathers get crucified by greedy judges and ad-litems, here and in Haiti. 

I received a letter from the AL state bar stating "Such and such a lawyer surrendered his license due to the complaint written against that lawyer"

Being shamed/crucified has doubtless been my lot, but I've felt justice in Alabama sometimes results from the father's heart-ache and pain.  As a proud idiot, my crucifictions I've deserved, to be sure. 

I suppose a loving befriending father is a blessed miracle that no law can stop.  And/or, I can think of no greater love.  Perhaps, if I were sane, I'd fear a loving father more than anyone. 

As for child-protective services and psychologists, I suspect their days are numbered ... as our social security administration probably can't afford to finance these court jesters much longer.