Hey guys I really appreciate the time taken to point me in the right direction. This is my first time using such an advanced program or edrums at all, so I thank you for not just flaming me for my ignorance. Ive been at work all day so I have not been able to mess with this today. That being said is there anyway either of you could/would give me a step by step guide of what to check and select once I have inserted my midi track? I have a cord going from the laptops headphone jack to the mix in on the dm6, and then my headphones also coming off the dm6.

I agree that the DM6 sounds are fairly lame. I kind of expected that considering the price. I got it, fully intending to use it as a trigger for better soft synth sounds, such as Session Drummer or EZ Drummer.
The key element here is a good audio interface. You have made a substantial investment, but do you have another $200 to put into it? A decent interface is the make or break element, and it makes soft synths viable in a real time scenario.
By way of example, the drums in this song were played live, using the DM6 to trigger Session drummer 2 and EZ Drummer.
http://soundclick.com/share.cfm?id=11243952

As for a step by step, see my previous post. You should see your options in the drop down menus.
If anything is unclear, let me know. I'm about spent for the evening, but I'll stick with you 'til you get going.

Well at 4 am I finally got to work!  However I have another question (shocking!) in the output selector I see hundreds of kits that seem available from lots of different company's but they don't seem to work.  Any ideas on how to get those to work?

Thanks again for your time and patience with me!

Clicking the full synth audio fixed it up. Basically I just went step by step with your last post with the screen shot, it was so simple I wanted to kick myself. I wish the manual was that easy to understand. 

When I was looking through those drum maps there must be a thousand different kits from all the different drum manufactures DW,Ludwig, pearl, with specific classic sets throughout history it seems. It had me really wishing I could have those sounds be triggered with my drums. 

I've been using wood tip 5-a sticks as to be a bit more quiet. I have found that I need to not let my sticks have as much rebound than I normally would in order to achieve the desired sound, for example with the hihats open I hit more on the top of the pad, and use more of the middle of the stick in a sort of pushing motion rather than I striking motion. Not sure if that makes sense or not but for me that allows me to keep a more constant flow of sound coming through, rather than say four easily pronounced hits per measure. More of a natural sound with an unnatural movement. Also it feels like the more kinetic energy I put into the drums the better it sounds, I feel like I play these more with my whole body than I do my acoustic kit.