Farewell to BB King

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Riding With The King
 
The title song was written by John Hiatt

I am sorry to hear this.
I'm sure he will get the best of care but hosp1ce does not try to make you well. The hospital does that, hosp1ce is a home service that tries to make you more comfortable but they do not try to make you better and in fact (I learned this with my dad) if someone is on hosp1ce and 911 is called and the person goes to the hospital, hosp1ce will drop the person and pick them back up after the hospital stay... but they will tell family that if the 'patient" take a turn for the worse to call them (hosp1ce) first.
In other words hosp1ce is only there to help see that someone does not die in pain or discomfort, they are there to ease the passing not to heal. So Herb is right, it is the last final exit. I hope they do their job well.
 
Sad.

I feel for you jbow. I went through the same issues with my mom a couple years back and it was really rough. My sister and I signed the DNR after the doctors gave us all the facts. When she died I was holding her hand. After 90+ years I thinks that's not too bad.

Yes.... my mom passed a bit over a year ago.... at her age the hospital wanted to do tests and then this and that to "save" her.... my sister had the signed and certified DNR document expressing her wishes NOT to be saved by "heroic actions".  A nurse came in to "take her for some tests" and we had to stop her. She called a doctor to the room at our insistence. The doctor still wanted to order tests. We had to insist that they obey her wishes at the threat of legal action  by calmly asking them (the attending doctors) if we needed to have her attorney come to the hospital and explain the DNR to them in detail.  The doc immediately canceled all the tests and made a note on her chart. She was released the next day, after a few days in the hospital to get her stabilized as much as possible.

Home hosp1ce came to the house, provided a medical bed, pain killers, and a nurse to come in daily to check on her and assist the family in caring for her. They even covered the final hospital bill for us.   Fortunately, we were all (family) on the same page and in total agreement on her wishes and care.  She passed peacefully in her sleep her first night back home.

Home Hosp1ce is the final stage. When that happens, the time is short.

UbiquitousBubba
 All too soon, the thrill will be gone. 

I see watt you did there.

Been there, done that.  It is a rough ride.  Hospice care is best, if you handle do it.
 
I saw Mr. King twice, and both were as good shows as I've ever seen.  I saw him in the 80s in Dallas, the same cow shed the Sex Pistols played - the lone star ballroom.  Me and my date were the only whites in the place, and the management had picnic tables set up in front of the stage and people brought chicken and pies and I don't know what all to eat.  Still, we were close enough to Mr. King to see the sweat and he and Lucille burned down the place.  Quite an experience.   A few years ago we saw him in a big fancy hall.  He sat through the whole show and mostly told stories but it was still riveting if not as intense.  I guess that pretty much covers the spectrum of performances.
 
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michaelhanson

That's a ... tooooooo close up of Lucille! 

batsbrew
DID HE DIE?
 

Not yet, but he's been put into a final care hosp!ce.

Moshkito
So not getting anything, anymore, not even the original paintings of a couple of surrealists ... 

Why would someone want to make even one painting of a couple of surrealists? 

Moshkito

craigb

batsbrew
DID HE DIE?

Not yet, but he's been put into a final care hosp!ce.

As usual, the fights have already started ... family and this and that ... the saddest thing I have ever seen, and it is when you know that greed is at the front, and not the appreciation for what dad did. Not even grateful for anything they get or not get ... the education you can get from someone like that in terms of the arts is ... incredible ... but they didn't learn anything, I guess.
 
Sorry ... using my family as an example. And it ain't over here either! I'm abstaining for almost everything, and if something comes this way, fine ... if not, fine. I already cleared my "accounts" internally with mom, anyway. So not getting anything, anymore, not even the original paintings of a couple of surrealists ... that are probably worth a nice penny!!! And mom is "giving them away" to some Portuguese this or that foundation -- Gulbenkian I think, which is OK, they have supported Portuguese studies for years!). Lucille should end up in a museum somewhere, like the Smithsonian ... but it will probably get sold for 50 million!

Yes, these things can be like being thrown in a shark tank however... my advise, having just gone through this is to take your inheritance, it is yours unless you were written out for not being or doing what someone wanted and I hope that isn't the case. I decided to be fair in the face or thieves and liars and some how I came out ahead. I was honest and when my sister couldn't do things, I split things and in most cases gave her first choice, we packed things for her and moved things for her. She had some romantic idea about buying the house instead of selling it. She is 73yo, in bad health, obese, diabetic and all her doctors will now be about 60 miles away. I advised her a couple of times that she shouldn't buy the house, although if she did it would greatly simplify my life, I would (and did) get a check and walk away. You know what? When I advised her that she shouldn't buy it she became suspicious that I had some other motive... I didn't,  sa a vie. Now she has a house that needs a roof, has insulation problems, stairs she can't go up, a new roof, and a few other things.
Of course, both mom and dad had died... but not before they tried (unsuccessfully) to poison my dad's mind against us. My niece was stealing money, she stole a LOT. Dad asked my wife, she is a CPA, to help him because he didn't know where his money was going. It didn't take my wife long to figure it out. He asked if he could get his money back. Yes but he would have to prosecute his grand daughter. He wouldn't do that and after he was gone we honored his wishes and treated it as water under the bridge.
So, we set up an account for final expenses, flipped a coin to see who went first and then split up furniture, artwork, and heirlooms. We each took our own stuff first.
It well IMO, because I decided to be firm but fair... it was amazing to me that I was assumed to be a liar, assumed to be "up to something" for trying to help but I came away from it with no bitterness, I doubt that is the case with my sister and her family but I'm not them, I'm not like them.
They say that you can choose your friends but you can't choose your family. How true. It is certainly true to that the "love for money" is the root of much evil.
I took your way when my aunt and uncle died. I was appalled when I found that my sister's kids (and my sister) were at their house when my two cousins were going through things, getting what they could. Decades ago when my maternal grandmother died they went to her farmhouse and removed the light fixtures from the ceiling, took featherbeds, doorknobs... they were the great grandkids... I didn't even know about it until later because I don't think that way. The nephew got busted by my uncle (my mom's brother, one of my grandmother's kids) pulling the ivorys off the keyboard of the piano in the house, which happened to be HIS piano, lol... he was like what the he77 are you doing to my piano??
So yeah... I completely understand not wanting to be in the "shark tank" but if you do it with honor and honesty you can have what is yours and come away with no regrets. If you just refuse to be involved you may find that it becomes something that continues to bug you, at least a little. Let them do the fighting, you just stand on and use whatever rights you have but it your mom is alive what is anyone doing, isn't any estate hers to have, use, or dispose of as she see's fit?
These things are hard but nearly as hard if you refuse to fight but also refuse to be run over. IMO anyway.
 
J

He was a one of a kind. Great musician and influential to many. He made a great contribution to American blues.

Maybe Jan is showing him the ropes.