My Midi drumming is too hard

A look at the quick setup guide reveals a "Full Level" option which will send a 127 out no matter how hard or soft you hit the pads. I can't get into the editor software, but that is where I would look. Usually there is a velocity curve option to tailor the responses, however this is a pretty inexpensive box do maybe you are expecting more than it can give.

A quick Google check reveals that there is indeed no velocity curve options. However, I did find a forum post about changing the velocity. Involves modding the pads I think. Anyway here is the link:
https://forum.ableton.com/viewtopic.php?p=977619

Without being able to change velocity curves there is probably not a lot of options other than practice, practice, practice.
I was bemoaning my "lack of articulation" with pads and thought it was the pads fault until someone who is a drummer made me look foolish by making a really expressive beat in minutes.
I am now a lot better at it but for three levels of soft medium and hard which is enough most of the time, anything special I just edit velocities in the software

Ok, this is from left field..... How about pads or gloves for your fingers? Foam? Just a random thought.

tlw
Might lighter sticks help?

Its not that kind of drum pad.  Its a 16 pad midi controller.  My fingers are my fingers (although there are a couple of suggestions up thread that might be interesting.)
 
If this was posted in Sarcastica Font (TM) I missed it.

Assuming your pads are sending 127 on every hit, then there is a limited amount you can do in SONAR or other software to fix this. 127 is a constant number, if you subtract a set number from that constant you will just get a universally lower number. You will not be able to get any new information from the pad. If you apply some sort of randomization, you will just get random results, not the expressive results you are looking for. Any change you make that will do what you want will have to come at the point where the transducer in the pad converts the percussion to MIDI. So if there is not a physical adjustment to the electronics of the transducer, or a software setting in the firmware or driver that will extend the sensitivity of the pad, you will need to reduce the percussive force i.e. hit it softer or put a muffling substance between the drumstick and pad for example using padded sticks.

That is why I bought the midi drum set so I could use sticks. It's near impossible to get realistic drum rolls etc with fingers,,, you need the bounce involved. 
All you need is one good drum pad, but the whole kit is awesome if you can at least sort of play real drums.. saves a tonne of time for me.. get most parts in one pass. On a good day, I don't need to fix  much in editing. 
 
My Roland a49 has a slider that when assigned velocity turns the controller from sensitive ( piano ) to hard (organ) 

did you mention practice?
:)
tbh I found using keyboard keys harder than pads as it is more difficult to hit 127 however my keyboard does have velocity curves so was able to set it to high and get a decent result