Arg! Stuck in frustrating file export land... (and some BFD3 tips)

So I mentioned that I am moving my project over from Ableton Live to finish mixing in Sonar. The drums are killing me. I use BFD3 and I want to mix the kit myself as tracks in Sonar, not in the BFD3 mixer (I want to use my VSTs). I struggled to route all the outs to tracks in Ableton to I learned about the Export feature in BFD3. Unfortunately for me, I was getting files with some wierd artifacts. BFD3 tech support recommended running in stand-alone (after discussing buffers and so forth). 
 
The way to do this is save your preset to a file and then export your MIDI. Then you open BFD3 in standalone, load the preset, and import the MIDI groove (would be nice if this was saved as part of the preset). Then you can use the Export feature to choose the tracks to export. This actually works well (when it doesn't crash). Try it if you haven't done so - you'll get all of your mixer channels as separate wav files - cool.
 
Now, I start mixing with the overheads. I discovered that the snare was a bit too loud as was the high tom. That meant it not only sounded too loud, I could not blend in the dedicated snare channel, shaped the way I'd like. I tracked this down to the mixer in BFD. At least with the Neil Pert kit (not sure about others), the feed to the overheads has nothing to do with the track volume of the drum in question. I made the assumption that if I dropped the level of the snare, it would also drop the amount of snare sent to the overheads. However, the overhead volume is located in the Ambient section (I think that's what it's called). So I have been busy trying to get just a good overhead mix where the cymbals sound good (Neil Pert kit was designed so that you ONLY get the cymbals in the overheads, not on individual channels grrrr) but the kick, snare, and toms aren't too loud. At the same time, I'm playing with what volume to export the individual drum mixer tracks so I can blend them back in as their own tracks in Sonar. 
 
So, those of you using BFD3 that want more control over your mix - you can get it but it takes some tweaking. Very excited about this though, as my rough mix is already starting to come together more than the BFD mix...