sorry so late to respond to this, been on vacation in La Jolla, got seawater in my brain! wow, some great critiques and suggestions here.. so, to be clear, this is the SAME mix on both songs.
the only difference,
was in the approach of the mastering.
both songs were balanced EQ wise, exactly the same. that file saved,
then put into wavelab with nothing but limiting on the 1st one,
and a multiband linear phase compresser on the 2nd one,
just to flatten the dynamics out a bit, and bring it up a bit louder.
i believe that folks like the 2nd mix JUST because it's louder!
heheh... which kinda falls in line with what all mastering engineers say.....
i think if i decided to go with mix #2, i'd have to slightly re-mix it a bit to balance what would happen in mastering.
then again, the first mix (Mix #1) is more true to the actual mix, and has a bit more dynamics to it.
clearly, #2 is preferred here..
i will probably end up with a mastering scheme that is exactly in between the two,
and that's pretty much what i needed help deciding,
so thank you to everyone that has helped me pull this project together.
that's the last posting for all the songs that will become my next album release.
on to the mastering!