57Gregy
Which is better. before or after? Most of my live playing is behind the beat. Egregiously late notes are corrected, but I leave the rest where they lay.
Kinda depends on the music you're playing. A lot of jazz players (other than me) often tend to lay back a bit, and I will do this sometimes deliberately, for effect; time feel is kind of a personal thing and part of a player's sound and style, interacting with phrasing and dynamics. Rock and funk typically work better with a somewhat stricter feel, but then there are always going to be players who have a much looser feel and sound great with it...
I try not to overthink these things any more, having spent too long second-guessing myself and worrying someone would catch on to the fact that I didn't really know what I was doing (as if anyone really does). So I played kind of timidly and without conviction. But at a certain point I just kind of decided, well, here I am, I've been playing this way for a couple of decades, it's not likely to change, but if I'm going to bother playing then people may as well hear me... so I started playing stronger, and everything kind of got better and easier and more fun, so that seemed like the right approach!
EDIT: I almost forgot: as the old song has it...
"T'ain't what you do, it's the way that you do it!"