All the information you need is in this thread.
Honestly, relax and step back from it for the evening. I mean no offence by this, but what's happening is this: you are not grasping a few key concepts, and you are hammering away to no avail. Sleep on it. It's not rocket science, but it *is* a bit counter-intuitive.
Most importantly this: abandon how you think it *should* work, and start getting with how it *does* work.