Some soft synths, particularly those from Native Instruments, have a default setting that ties volume change to settings from the host software (Sonar).
For myself, and others, I would see the Battery 3 or Kontakt volume jump to a value I did not set, and even changing the volume settings for either Battery 3's volume, OR for the track's fader setting, it would always jump back to some other (almost always way louder) volume setting.
Sooooooo, after some digging around, I was able to determine that each of the Native Instruments' has a settings section, and there is a parameter for almost all of their modules where removing a check from a box tells that soft synth to NOT automatically respond to those CC volume message setting.
I do NOT know if the above is an available option for your synths, but it completely eliminated the issue for me, for all of the Native Instrument soft synths.
Please detail which synths are behaving like this for you, maybe we can collectively figure out if something similar to what happens to NI synths is at play here for you.
Bob Bone