For me, the part starting at 5:32 looks really intriguing
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=s8-4DFnRwMQ
 
Anyone know to set this up in Sonar? I've, uhm ...  never knowingly sidechained anything in my life. In fact the only sidechain I know is the one my girlfriend uses when she takes me on on errands.
 
Grateful for any help.. 

Funny, my wife doesn't need a chain.  I am well trained.
 
Ive only used sonitus stock plug ins to sidechain.  Sonar makes this fairly simple to accomplish.  Check out CakeTV, they have a few tutorials on how to sidechain and duck.  Here is a link to one of the tutorials I used recently in trying to figure out how to sidechain in Sonar with Waves vocal rider.  Unfortunately, I never accomplished this feat but I did like the explanations provided. 
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tkWeQR4UJf0 

Ducking can be another useful technique with a spouse.

Something like this?
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zq8tavR6Xa0
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D-wLR3Sqq_0
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tkWeQR4UJf0
 
Hope this helps.
 
EDIT: Ooops, last video was already posted by Gryzzlylip, sorry!

mettelus
Ducking can be another useful technique with a spouse.

LOL
 
George W. Bush is a Professional Master Ducker.
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FIJ3DgUd7vk

Thanks gents!