As Ron said, zoom in a little, and the waveform should appear more clearly. And I repeat my advice to only place tempo changes at note starts; this should help a lot.
As you've said yourself, it's just a display issue, anyway. It's only relatively recently in the history of music that composers could see the waveforms of the music they're composing, and somehow many ritards have been successfully written, played and recorded. Yes, I'm being sarcastic; all those questions marks made me do it.
But, seriously, I think you're making a mountain out of a molehill; in the grand scheme of things, this shouldn't significantly be impacting your ability to write and record orchestral music.
I'll add that I think a better way to create a ritard/accel is to record a part (or just a reference track) in real time and then use Set Measure/Beat at Now to tell SONAR where the beats fall. You'll get a much more realistic result.