I think I answered my own question, but this still bothers me. The 35.6dB snare came from one of the Fairfax presets, but pretty much all of the Metal kits violate this... here is one example (+16.7dB snare).
There IS a compressor on the Master out, and the Gain Reduction spikes dramatically (I missed the snare on the screen cap which is way more than the kick).
I also highlighted the send buttons... but am still a bit put off that the individual tracks are running so hot. With these presets that hot, it pretty much requires mixing within the AD2 engine without adding a lot of overhead within SONAR.
Still debating this one, but is only day 2! I will say that I am very impressed by the recorder function in AD2, as I was pulling one shots from AD1 with Geist's "Spitter" and no longer need to do this. Layering with samples from AD2 is significantly simpler.