I am just barely starting to understand this type of MIDI stuff but isn't this the type of thing that perhaps setting up a drum map/device profile within Sonar could help with?
In my esperience though, and this seems to be confirmed all over the internet, Korg units are a notorious pain in the buttsicles to set up. I had a heckuva a time figuring out my padKontrol and I have to be very careful how I connect it.
One little troubleshooting thing that sometimes help is make sure you turn on/connect the Korg BEFORE opening Sonar. If I don't do that my pK does not work at all.
Oh and try to always use the same USB port you installed the Korg drivers on. Changing ports can confuse/screw up Windows for some dumb reason.
Sorry if none of that is of any use.