In the 2
nd post you mentioned a few things you might change when recording and I wanted to add to those thoughts.
When setting levels take the time to work with the drummer to get that ride cymbal level in the mix. In other words when getting the levels, make sure he/she is playing the ride as they will in the song. I know I have to consciously play softer on the ride when recording than I would if I was playing the song out live. The ride is the first place (at least in my experience) where the playing volume picks up as the excitement of recording gets intense.
Wrt the ride cymbal itself, the type of ride cymbal may make a big difference for you. A big washed-out sounding ride may be perfect in a big band setting but is just going to turn into unmanageable white-noise in a loud rock setting. You should be looking at a “dry” cymbal possibly with a smaller diameter.
You mentioned recording the cymbals separately. Take a listen to this, the whole song is crash and ride. The way I approached this was by tracking with 2 overhead mics to get the entire drum-set. After that I went in and tracked each drum separately. It was a very time consuming process but I was really happy with the results (Ed did the mixing and mastering).
https://soundcloud.com/stan-dupp-the-tillies/for-a-thousand-mothers