With Win10 Pro you can disable the Windows Update service.
Once every couple of months I enable it and let Win 10 update.
But I do not use the PC for browsing the web.
A few weeks ago, I did the Nov Win10 updates and up to the current ones.
I had to re-auth Melodyne, and AD2 but that is about it.
If the PC is used for web browsing though, you should either keep Defender up to date or use another anti-virus that does not rely on Windows Update to stay current.