peter47
...is it possible that i can not hear what compression does due to the fact i am tone deaf?
No. It's just very difficult to hear something that's not there. Add a flanger or distortion and the difference is easy to discern, but when you employ an effect that
removes something it's hard to know what to listen for. A/B listening is therefore necessary to hear what's not there after compression.
I'd suggest starting with extreme settings on a percussive source such as a ride cymbal or snare drum, and fiddling with attack times to gradually tune your ear to what's happening. You should be able to clearly hear the difference between a 0.5ms attack and a 5ms attack, for example, as the initial hits are suppressed or let through.