85dB is as close to a standard as there is, but it has been suggested (by Bob Katz if I recall correctly) that for smaller setups with nearfields 79dB might be more appropriate.
At low volumes the Fletcher-Munson effect kicks in, and our ears/brain emphasise the mids, especially in the vocal frquency bands because that's what our hearing has evolved to regard as the most important fequency zone to hear clearly. Wiki has a good article about it here -
https://en.wikipedia.org/../Equal-loudness_contourAttempting to mix with the Fletcher-Munson effect warping our hearing is frustrating and pretty pointless because the mix will end up sounding quite different depending on playback volume.
In the real world, unless mixing entirely for club PA systems we don't know how loudly someone will be listening to music, so checking what's going on and if there are imbalances across the likely range of volumes is a good idea. I'd suggest not worrying too much about very low volumes though, because a mix catering for them won't work outside that situation. All we can do is hope the listener has switched on the "loudness" filter in their playback system - which adds treble and bass (or subtracts mids) in an attempt to overcome the changed perception at low volumes.
Incidentally, 85dB (time weighted) is loud enough to cause potential hearing damage if listened to for long enough periods. A search for industrial/music/entertainment industry noise level guidance will find you lots of information about that. It's quite common nowadays for engineers to track with quite low control room volumes, 80dB or less, partly to reduce potential hearing damage (deaf engineers generally don't turn in good results which upsets their customers and employers) and partly so they can hear themselves think and so they can talk to other people in the control room while tracking.