I've a 2KW PA that easily fits in the back of a medium sized hatchback.... (2 powered cabs, one powered sub, mixer, in ear rig for three people).
Avoiding feedback in stage monitors can be a real pain.
The first question is whether you even need monotoring for a small, solo gig. If you can't hear yourself well enough, you do, and if the room reverb/echo makes it hard to stay in time you do.
For a solo guitar plus voice I'd be inclined to go down the in-ear route rather than use "traditional" monitors. Proper in-ear phones that fill the ear canal knock 40dB or more off the background noise that you hear and unless handled very badly indeed are pretty feedback-proof at less than deafening levels. Even the least expensive Shure earphones work pretty well.
They will however need a different eq to the PA mix to sound right, but unless you monitor is a duplicate of the PA speakers that's true of any monitoring system.
I suggest, assuming you're using a mixer, you take the monitor feed from a pre-fader aux if possible, post fader if necessary. Auxes on most mixers are pre-eq, so set up the eq to sound right out front. Put a simple inexpensive eq (graphic or parametric) between the aux output and monitor input and after that an inexpensive digital fx unit for reverb. Some mixers can send their built-in reverb through the aux outputs, in which case use that rather than an external fx unit unless you need different settings.
For in-ear systems follow that with a headphone amplifier (the little Samson ones are inexpensive and decent quality). You may need the eq after the amp rather than before, a bit of experimentation is required there.
For a powered monitor wedge I'd seriously consider putting an automatic feedback killer in the chain before it, or a 33 band graphic as a minimum. Use the killer/graphic to "ring out" the monitor before you start to idontify and neutralise the dominant feedback frequencies - just keep turning the foldback up until feedback starts, identify the frequency and eq it out, repeat a few times. After that an automatic killer should be able to nail any new feedback as it arises pretty well.
As I said, I'd go down the in-ear route. It gives good monitoring at lower volumes and once set up to your liking will work pretty much wherever you are with minimal or no changes to the original setup. If lack of audible audience response is a problem just point a mic into the audience and blend it in with the foldback (but not the PA, obviously).
To finish, I'd add that in-ear without at leat a bit of ambient reverb can sound very dry. And always, always have it fed from a mono source, or at least whatvyou hear of you should be in mono. Knowing you are standing "here" but your ears telling you e.g. your guitar is off to your left and your voice coming through your skull while your ears also hear it somewhere to the right can be very confusing. And stereo is even worse if you move around - people, especially physically active and mobile singers, have been known to fall over before now.