Maybe you're already way past this, in which case feel free to disregard. Replied just in case you're overlooking this.
How is the VST version configured in SONAR - (effect or instrument)? Normally inside the DAW, you would have to enable "Midi Out" from the VST itself (via the "VST2" or "VST3" button at the top of the interface) at least if it isn't automatically recognized as an instrument. If Midi Out is enabled, the VST should present a MIDI port specific for the VST. As far as using this outside of SONAR to talk to your OB, I'm afraid I can't help.
For what it's worth...