Well, all my specs are in my signature, except hard drives -- I have 5 drives, three SSDs and two WD Blacks, and most of my samples are on the SSDs, including all the Play stuff. I don't use Wifi, as I much prefer wired LAN connections for speed and stability, and ran network cable throughout my house for that reason. I closed what I was working on, and pulled up a much smaller project with only two instances of Play, 6 tracks and no other synths -- hardly a beast from a resource perspective -- and Play would not bounce nicely there, either. I suspect that this is a problem with Play and Sonar, rather than just a matter of resource management.
I should probably clarify that my current project is bigger than other things I have been working on
lately. I have had projects this big in the past, but I don't recall any issues with Play (aside from a brief period last year, I think, where Play wasn't bouncing properly, and which was addressed in a patch - at least, I seem to recall?). Now all of a sudden I can't get Play to behave nicely, and while there are work arounds, they are kind of a pain to use.