A really good place to pick up the stereo mix is the headphone output either on your interface or mixer etc. And if there is more than one then that is even better.
All you have to do is calibrate levels. e.g. playback the ref level that is going to show 0 dB VU in Sonar. Make sure everything is at unity then turn up the headphone level so the VU reads 0 dB VU.
Make sure you get high quality movements and also the electronics that drives them is also important. I use an ART Clean box to do this.
http://artproaudio.com/isolators/product/cleanbox_pro/ I have a digital mixer that has two RCA outs(-10 dBV) that represent the stereo mix. I run it into the Clean box which steps it up to +4 dBu and also a 600 ohm balanced output too that the VU's will love. The clean box also has adjustable input level controls which is handy if the headphone out is not variable. You may also want to vary your ref levels like I do for example. I use all three K System ref levels. K-12, K-14, K-20. Each time you change you have to re adjust the Clean Box that feeds the VU's.
I would keep any extra outs on your interface for other purposes. The headphone jack works perfectly.
Don't forget to download this article too as to why VU meters are so good and very important.
https://drive.google.com/file/d/0B_2Jb7O_b5BkeVB3dFVsUm8zelE/view?usp=sharing The virtual meters these days are excellent but the ballistics of a real VU is simple very hard to beat and to me still stands as the best. (I spent over $100 each on the movements which is cheap. New ones go as high as $200 each!) Check eBay as well. Very good quality ones pop up there all the time. Built them into a nice box and make sure you get all the lights working too. You can buy them fully mounted and ready to go as well if you look around.