One of the forum members once described it nicely:
Kamelodic, imagine you are taken to the Abbey Road studios in London (or any high profile
professional studio), and told to record a song. What could you do? Most likely you couldn't even get the
gear plugged on :o)
A modern DAW offers options and possibilities practically equal to a pro studio (and anyway 100 times more than the Abbey Road studios had to offer when the Beatles made their classics). You should be prepared to a
learning curve matching that. If you have started your hobby in january this year (looking at your joining date), or something like that, you should be ready to patiently work and study at least a year or two more (depending on how much time you spend with your DAW). Then you might reasonably likely have a solid knowledge of the basics, and start diving into the deeper details.
Alone, teaching your ears to hear and analyze the right things when, say, mixing, takes usually years, especially if your studio acoustics and monitor speakers are less than satisfactory.
Then there are the laws of physics - phase cancellation and whatever, which kick you in the knee just when you think you got everything under control :o)
To learn about different effects and how to use them you simply have to download and test the demos, watch teaching videos, listen to commercial reference songs etc. It takes months and months, there's no shortcut. It's sheer work, although fun as well. Anyway, the faster you want to learn, the more hours you need to spend by your DAW studying in an organised way.
I think I've read all your posts now, and I'm sensing that you expected it would be as easy to become a music producer as the music software advertisements say it would be. Well, you're surely not the only one :o).
If you can not drop that " if I can't do this now I might as well quit" -attitude your music hobby will only cause you stress, and you'd probably be happier without it. If you can settle with the idea of enjoying the hobby and learning
one thing at a time you'll have a source of joy for the rest of your life.