I think I may know where the angst comes from. There are TONS of people out there who are not musical at all and just want to pretend they are musicians. They put in a 4 on the floor kick and 2, 4 snare.... load up some arpeggio, hit a few keys and they think they have a song.
I kinda cringe when I watch those videos. Stuff like this comes to mind:
https://youtu.be/LI0Lw_IGooI lul.
I use all synths, but there is a song first flushed out before I even touch synths using either acoustic guitar or piano with a full verse, chorus, vocal melody, rough lyrics, etc.... this way I know whatever I do on synths has a strong skeleton of a song first.