This is process that takes years to perfect but you should be hearing a good replica of what you export.
I record everything in 24 bit / 44.1. I export my mixes in 24 bit and master it to 24 bit as well but from that master make 16 bit copy's for CD quality. I use 24 bit because of its extended dynamic range. I have yet to see the benefits in 96 or higher, I know there are but not in my world so I stick to 44.1.
It all starts with your master bus. leave it at 0DB. If you need to make room for headroom, move track faders not the master bus. Make certain and absolutely POSITIVE your hardware bus is set to 0db. don't start messing with that or your asking for trouble. (the hardware bus is often hidden all the way to the right hand side in the bus pane/console view).
It took me years to get my mixes in sonar to sound the same on multiple sources (Car radios, stereo systems, exc) but it all came down to basics, things I over looked. signal flow and proper gain staging.