Sanderxpander
I have the exact opposite experience - using multiple reverbs (especially with different presets) makes for more mush than using a single one.
Think about this,
Vocal one is singing one part, routing part of that signal to a send to a reverb bus.
Vocal two is singing an over laying vocal / an offset (Totally different rhythmic line). that reverb has to process two separate vocal parts doing two different things.
I use sends no doubt, but its typically in the mix down process and more often than not, there are never two or more instruments/vocals feeding that send bus UNLESS they are doing the same exact thing.
We all work differently. there's nothing wrong with that. I can see your point and respect that.
I hope you can do the same. If you cant, oh well. its only an option. Im not going to be mixing any of your projects anytime soon and you wont be mixing any of mine