Without being able to change velocity curves there is probably not a lot of options other than practice, practice, practice.
I was bemoaning my "lack of articulation" with pads and thought it was the pads fault until someone who is a drummer made me look foolish by making a really expressive beat in minutes.
I am now a lot better at it but for three levels of soft medium and hard which is enough most of the time, anything special I just edit velocities in the software