I just got the answer from MOTU tech support. It's much simpler than most of the answers above and you DO NOT NEED any additional hardware!
In this example, my Sonar outputs are Analog 1/2 and I have only a mixed track to sing to in the project, and empty vocal tracks waiting to be filled.
1) Open CueMix and under the Phones menu, choose Analog 1/2
2) Choose Analog 1/2 from the dropdown menu found just above the CueMix master fader
3) Make sure the CueMix master fader and the CueMix vocal input fader are unmuted and turned up
That's it! You can now control the vocal level with a combination of moving the vocal input fader in CueMix or turning down the mixed track in Sonar. You can also patch in an external effects processor to allow singers to hear reverb as they sing that doesn't get recorded.
Thanks to all for all the amazing tips! I can see that additional hardware would make the reverb easier to patch in because that feature in Sonar seems to work depending on the phase of the moon. My singers don't care though, and this will definitely work for me.
Thanks - rev