First of all, is it session drummer 3 / or studio drummer ?
if its session drummer 3:
right click on the hi tom (the drum kit piece itself)
choose "Load instrument". pick an SFZ file from the hi tom files.
in the future you would be better off loading a kit Vs. loading individual samples. (if that's what you did).
how did you load your kit ?
If its studio drummer (from Native Instruments):
your in the wrong part of the forum. This is for Sonar related issues.