Maybe too serious for some or too light for others - who knows

It's possible this will not sit well with some, but as I have not been here long so don't qualify as one of those " A certain few that show up occasionally" as I've never posted here until a week ago if I recall correctly, and I've been pretty clear in all my posts about being yourself if that's what makes you happy, but understand not everyone see's things the same as you, but that's OK - do you really need affirmation or others to agree with you to be happy, types of people.  


I'll participate or not participate regardless if there are topics popping up as twists on subjects, two word posts about whatever - if it interests me I'll respond, if not I'll skip a post, so it can't be said I'm in any particular gang or crowd because I can adjust to whatever the Coffee House is or becomes so it's with this in mind that I just want to say to both sides of this tiff - Pot, Kettle, Black.


Some on the inside or that used to be regulars, or even dare they outsiders, voiced opinions about a "public" forum.  OK, they voiced there opinion, so what, it's a "public" forum, it will be what it is regardless what anyone feels as long as the owner of the forum is OK with it.  No individual or group can dictate what a forum is or becomes - it will be what it is at any given time.  If enough feel change is warranted, it will happen, if not, it will stay the way it is.


Ultimately everyone is acting like they are in the right, the very people who say they are welcoming and carefree, they just want a light forum where they can be themselves are circling the wagons against the outsiders they claim to welcome with open arms.  Welcome as long as they behave and share the same opinion that is.  As long as they are of the same mindset as the current occupants.  Funny how openness only applies to those who see things the same as us and current occupancy think they dictate what a public forum should be.  Even those that several here once thought of as "us" have immediately become "them" - the enemy at the gates calling for change when in reality they are just offering a differing opinion, one they may have thought would be considered for it's possible merits by those those they thought friends, those that claim to be lighthearted and open to all.


Any community is either really open to all or it's closed to a few.  If it's really open, all can exist and accept each other and coexist.  Serious stuff can be right next to the silliest of things, each has their place. It does however require respect for each others point and all I'm seeing is Pot, Kettle, Black over something that seems an either/or scenario for many.


I do find it a bit funny that those that proclaim that frivolity reign are reacting so seriously and feel their fun somehow reduced by "serious" topics.  By the way, I think the opposite just as funny.  Both sides on this really seem that it's important that they dictate who enjoys what.  Pot, Kettle, Black.


Time to look in the mirror.  


I'll keep posting, if you find it offensive I apologize if an observation offends.  I could always be wrong, I often am. Others reminding me so has hopefully made me a better person.  


Now back to Am, freds and "Who is the best Rock Singer" - it is what it is.

Jonbouy


Jind with all due respect, I like the above post.

One thing though, I wonder if it could be improved by putting the word 'ping' in it at random points throughout.

It might work.

And so now "wibble" is passe?

'Ping' in. 'Wibble' out. Where does that leave 'Ptang Ptang Ole Biscuit Barrel' ?

I just don't know where I am in the Coffee House these days...

Speaking only for myself here, I have no problem with serious topics.  I've started a few myself.  (ping) I don't see any reason why someone who wants to post a serious question should feel any hesitancy to do so here.  This is an off-topic forum, however, so we're going to go off the range.  (ping) 

I think the suggestion that those who post silliness are ruining the forum for the rest is hard for some to hear.  I also think it's unfair.  Just because some of us post stupid things does not mean that someone else is prevented from having a serious conversation.  (ping) In my opinion (of no use to anyone but me) people who attempt to have serious conversations in an off-topic forum should probably expect a little bit of background noise.  (ping)

Personally, I miss some of the playful banter and whimsical nonsense this forum was known for.  To others, I'm sure they're happier with less fluff.  (ping)  I still see no reason it must be all one way or the other.  I don't see this as "ganging up" on anyone.  (ping)

(ping)

I thought off topic meant topics that would be misplaced in other areas of the forum. Not necessarily constant inane stuff.  Sometimes the CH would look like one of those clubs old weirdo fetish men would attend where they get dressed up in nappies and suck on a pacifier and get to indulge in some baby talk (terlit, terlit, BECAN!!!) and maybe wait for nanny (john) to chastise them so they can throw a hissy fit! A good mix of serious and non is more inviting to more people I think. 

(Ping)

I haven't seen it anywhere here that someone has said they want this place to serious all the time, and no silliness should be allowed. I also haven't noticed anyone saying it should be all silliness all the time.

Anyone seeing it that way isn't reading what's been written.

Randy

All I know is I disappeared from my usual forum stalking and it all crash! It all crash in my monitor!
Now, I've read a few bits and pieces to try and catch up a little, and I think I've figured it out.

That being said, I feel bad that I wasn't here to either a) jump in and defend anyone who needed defending or b) pick up my baseball bat and join the fray.

I'm on the fence.

There are times when it's hard to find a place to start between the madness and the shenanigans, yes.  And honestly, it does seem to have been a little more lately... I do skim some bits, but really, posting more in the middle of that, then trying to keep up and scrolling scrolling to read replies and continue... well, I haven't had the time.

But, I'm envious of those who do, and I certainly do not want to see anyone not be themselves in all their goofy glory.  The semi-serious, mostly music related topics are my favorites.  Also the ones where we get to be a family and help, advise, console, commiserate with others. I like those, too.

I would hate for any of you to disappear from my little coffeehouse world.

noldar12


OK: first a rant (in 64 point bold all caps, if that were possible):

What is all this extreme "ping" stuff????  What about the neglect of "pong"?  What sort of biased forum is this???????

We could go back and forth on 'ping' this subject for 'pong' days.

All I want is to reach Platinum blonde. Is that so wrong?