I guess we could continue with folks referring to one of the many
states of being associated with the term.

To cover the many "states" I usually think simply that it's a person that
has their **** together -in relation to what I believe the OP is getting at. 
I also realize that at any given moment that any human being may be
judged by themself or others as not having their **** together. -Also in relation
to what I think the OP is referring.

The interesting part of this thread is two-fold.
The first is why it was asked.
The second is why it was asked as a "loaded" question.
Due to it being asked as a "loaded" question rather that specifically addressing
one of the many "states" I am led to believe it was asked in
wake of the state and actions of many forum members recently.

I could be wrong but it matters not. Not anymore than if I consider whether or
not any forum member may or may not be an "adult" or have their **** together.
After all, it would be me making a call on one specific condition. Unless it's right
for one to determine if another is an adult based on one specific event.

What does matter is that I conduct myself in what I believe is an adult manner
when dealing with life at any given moment in any given circumstance.

Copied from Wiki for those that may be experiencing trying to get an understanding
of "adult".
For others that want to imagine that the Coffee House may be full of folks not conducting
themselves in an "adult" manner and want to pass judgement on them....well have at it. 
Then later you may determine and others may determine if you have your **** together or not.
          

• Adolescence
• Adult development
• Adultism
• Age of consent
• Age of majority
• Child
• Coming of age
• Developmental psychology#Early adulthood
• Developmental psychology#Middle age
• Legal drinking age
• Manhood
• Marriageable age
• Motion picture rating system
• Voting age
• Watershed (television)
• Womanhood

I would like to believe that being an adult is much like Tim says. Looking in our own mirror (not asking others to look in our mirror so we can tell them what we see).

In short, I believe I'm an adult when I can honestly judge myself and not judge others.

spacey


I guess we could continue with folks referring to one of the many
states of being associated with the term.

To cover the many "states" I usually think simply that it's a person that
has their **** together -in relation to what I believe the OP is getting at. 
I also realize that at any given moment that any human being may be
judged by themself or others as not having their **** together. -Also in relation
to what I think the OP is referring.

The interesting part of this thread is two-fold.
The first is why it was asked.
The second is why it was asked as a "loaded" question.
Due to it being asked as a "loaded" question rather that specifically addressing
one of the many "states" I am led to believe it was asked in
wake of the state and actions of many forum members recently.

I could be wrong but it matters not. Not anymore than if I consider whether or
not any forum member may or may not be an "adult" or have their **** together.
After all, it would be me making a call on one specific condition. Unless it's right
for one to determine if another is an adult based on one specific event.

What does matter is that I conduct myself in what I believe is an adult manner
when dealing with life at any given moment in any given circumstance.

Copied from Wiki for those that may be experiencing trying to get an understanding
of "adult".
For others that want to imagine that the Coffee House may be full of folks not conducting
themselves in an "adult" manner and want to pass judgement on them....well have at it. 
Then later you may determine and others may determine if you have your **** together or not.
          

Michael, the question seemed to be asked in a manner that was sincere, at least to me. Hence the serious reply. 



I think most of are are now trying to let sleeping dogs lay.


Cheers
Shad

foxwolfen

spacey


I guess we could continue with folks referring to one of the many
states of being associated with the term.

To cover the many "states" I usually think simply that it's a person that
has their **** together -in relation to what I believe the OP is getting at. 
I also realize that at any given moment that any human being may be
judged by themself or others as not having their **** together. -Also in relation
to what I think the OP is referring.

The interesting part of this thread is two-fold.
The first is why it was asked.
The second is why it was asked as a "loaded" question.
Due to it being asked as a "loaded" question rather that specifically addressing
one of the many "states" I am led to believe it was asked in
wake of the state and actions of many forum members recently.

I could be wrong but it matters not. Not anymore than if I consider whether or
not any forum member may or may not be an "adult" or have their **** together.
After all, it would be me making a call on one specific condition. Unless it's right
for one to determine if another is an adult based on one specific event.

What does matter is that I conduct myself in what I believe is an adult manner
when dealing with life at any given moment in any given circumstance.

Copied from Wiki for those that may be experiencing trying to get an understanding
of "adult".
For others that want to imagine that the Coffee House may be full of folks not conducting
themselves in an "adult" manner and want to pass judgement on them....well have at it. 
Then later you may determine and others may determine if you have your **** together or not.
         

Michael, the question seemed to be asked in a manner that was sincere, at least to me. Hence the serious reply. 



I think most of are are now trying to let sleeping dogs lay.


Cheers
Shad

Why are you addressing me? You avoided me when I nicely asked you questions
about your insults. So blow it out your ass and leave me alone.
Don't try policing me. I remember your drama BS the last time you were here
and now you show up pulling that crap again.
Let it be perfectly clear Shad. I don't have spit for you. Just leave me alone.

spacey


Why are you addressing me? You avoided me when I nicely asked you questions
about your insults. So blow it out your ass and leave me alone.
Don't try policing me. I remember your drama BS the last time you were here
and now you show up pulling that crap again.
Let it be perfectly clear Shad. I don't have spit for you. Just leave me alone.

Sincerely, I missed your questions or I would have answered them.


Your objections are noted.

spacey

foxwolfen

spacey


I guess we could continue with folks referring to one of the many
states of being associated with the term.

To cover the many "states" I usually think simply that it's a person that
has their **** together -in relation to what I believe the OP is getting at. 
I also realize that at any given moment that any human being may be
judged by themself or others as not having their **** together. -Also in relation
to what I think the OP is referring.

The interesting part of this thread is two-fold.
The first is why it was asked.
The second is why it was asked as a "loaded" question.
Due to it being asked as a "loaded" question rather that specifically addressing
one of the many "states" I am led to believe it was asked in
wake of the state and actions of many forum members recently.

I could be wrong but it matters not. Not anymore than if I consider whether or
not any forum member may or may not be an "adult" or have their **** together.
After all, it would be me making a call on one specific condition. Unless it's right
for one to determine if another is an adult based on one specific event.

What does matter is that I conduct myself in what I believe is an adult manner
when dealing with life at any given moment in any given circumstance.

Copied from Wiki for those that may be experiencing trying to get an understanding
of "adult".
For others that want to imagine that the Coffee House may be full of folks not conducting
themselves in an "adult" manner and want to pass judgement on them....well have at it. 
Then later you may determine and others may determine if you have your **** together or not.
         

Michael, the question seemed to be asked in a manner that was sincere, at least to me. Hence the serious reply. 



I think most of are are now trying to let sleeping dogs lay.


Cheers
Shad

Why are you addressing me? You avoided me when I nicely asked you questions
about your insults. So blow it out your ass and leave me alone.
Don't try policing me. I remember your drama BS the last time you were here
and now you show up pulling that crap again.
Let it be perfectly clear Shad. I don't have spit for you. Just leave me alone.

from an outsider looking in,i see this post as insulting.
i dont look at the big picture,i dont look at what happen a few days ago or a few years ago
or how this person infuriated you,
or even why.
 
im sure you'll probably have some choice words for me now as well.
im sorry but this was a really nice thread.
 

Barry it was not my intention for this to happen.

It was very late when I posted.
I thought I'd post this so those that feel a need to remark would know
exactly where I stand.

I offer no excuse. I don't do illegal drugs and very seldom take aspirin. l don't drink.
I was not sleepy when I posted and in fact spent a wonderful evening with my family
and guests.

There is no excuse because I offer none. I meant every word that was directed at one
person in response. I didn't have anything to say to him, hadn't said anything and will not
be saying anything else.
He understood every word and confirmed. The issue was resolved.

Now for those of you that feel a need to share your thoughts, insults, support or whatever
it is that makes you feel better- well have at it.

And to answer you Barry, Shad did. He knows how I feel about it and I believe he understands that and will honor my simple request of him.

Bubba has adult relatives.

I find comfort in that.