What's it like to be married?

I am 42 and finally getting married August 25 ..as you all know....


So what's it like? 

Will my life be complete? Like in the movies?

Jonbouy

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I am 42 and finally getting married August 25 ..as you all know....


So what's it like? 

Will my life be complete? Like in the movies?

It's nothing like being in the movies.

You don't have a theatre full of people watching you most days.

That bit is different.

Oh ....well if that's the only thing  then ....that's ok I suppose  

Excellent question Conquistador.

It's like nothing you've ever experienced before and not to be taken lightly.

There may come a time when you'd rather rake your own eyes out with one of those old time pointy forks from the 1800's that you could easily pierce your tongue with then see/hear your wife again. If you can get beyond that point, or better yet, never get there, you'll be fine.

Remember, the only person who ever truly loved you unconditionally is your mama (most of the time).

I wish you all the best.

For some it's not a word, it's a sentence.

Good luck on keeping it fun!

Maybe?

Just coming up to 9 years married and 18 years together overall.

Best thing I/we ever did, I wouldn't change one thing about her - and that's the truth.

Ups and downs, a lot of times completely out of your control. Learn to flow with it or get taken under.

21 years this year - arranged marriage at the age of 10 ;)
Learning to say 'you're right' definitely helps longevity.

 I was married for 19 years the first time. I was married when I was like 15 or something........anyways. I had no lessons and I had no advice. I wasn't good at winging it and I made a few mistakes. Part of it was my fault but I can't take credit for multiple infidelities on her part,although I did ask myself why and blamed myself for a long time.I had felt forced into a divorce decision.
 Marriage is about what you put into it. Self absorbed people don't do well at marriage. If you both put forth the effort it will be healthy. If you think there is a problem,then there probably is. Ignoring problems makes them worse.

 I am married to my second wife now almost 10 years.It has been way better than the first time around and she is truly a wonderful lady.We celebrated her birthday last night and she told me it was the best birthday she ever had...so I must be doing something right:-)...bout time.

Here are my lessons for a successful marriage. These were given to my wife and I shortly before we were married and we've stuck to them for 24 years.

1) Fidelity is a given.

2) Each of us promised to never spend more than $100 on a single item for ourselves without telling the other first. Not ask, tell. Alot of marriages get in trouble over money, and this has kept me from buying alot of selfish things.

3) You cannot leave the room during an argument. All couples have disagreements, but if you have to stay in the room until it's over, it prevents you from saying something you'll regret. If you think about all the arguments you've had, the meanest things are said as you are walking out of the room. Those over the shoulder utterings are usually meant to be the last words, but they can be the start of some bad things.

This advice was given to us by an older friend of mine who had been married 4 times. We figured if anyone knew what could wreck a marriage, he would know. It's worked well for us.

Randy

I find marriage to be very much like having a quadruple root canal from a blind dentist without anesthesia.  Oh on a car driving down a road with potholes.  

Look at the facts--> Marriage is the leading cause of divorce.  100% of divorces start with marriage.  Astounding.  

Seriously - good luck. I am so happy with my kids I don't know where I'd be without them.  And I wouldn't have them if I had not gotten married.  

Every journey begins with a single step, ol pal.  Look out for that banana peel!

It's also about putting yourselves second to the marriage being first.  It is a union of hearts and souls where two become one.  It takes alot of patience and willingness to share in eachother's good and bad times.  Be a good listener.  Tell her you love her often.

Jimmy

Marriage mellows and deepens with time.... And you don't even realize it's happening.  It starts with wild, gaudy and loud fireworks that eventually morph and fade into a quieter candlelight.

Don't expect the fireworks to last forever, or you won't enjoy the warmth of the candle.

My mother has a saying on her fridge (mom and dad married over 35 years), something about "it's the plains of Kansas you have to worry about".  Being happy, being comfortable with the silences, the less than thrilling days.... That's key.

In my own marriage (16 years), I've noticed a pattern.  We are completely and totally happy with each other for very long periods of time.  After a while, things go by unsaid, anger gets the better of someone, and eventually, I realize we are in the not so great place.  But We've been doing this for so long, I know that there's ANOTHER totally happy place coming.  Look for the happy. Its THERE- it's waiting.  But it takes a little effort to recognize it when you are angry.  Be forgiving. Be open.  

57Gregy


It's wonderful!*
You'll never have to cook a meal again.
You'll never have to clean again.
You get "special treatment" every night, and sometimes in the day, too!
There's always someone there to help you pick out your next expensive piece of hardware or software.
She'll love your new Corvette.
 
 
 
 
* I've heard. I've never been married. I was engaged once but she came to her senses before the deed was done.
Thank goodness!
 
 

Greg!  WAKE UP MAN!!!! YOU'RE DREAMING AGAIN!!!