Isn't it funny, no matter how well you try to mix it when things are not right it's usually at the 'source' thereby the 'sound', the 'performance' and the 'technique', and the way that performance is done is important.
That makes perfectly good sense, and explains what it was you were talking about in the original post in a way that filters through the tangled web of gray (and getting grayer) matter that is perched between my hairy ears.
I don't think I could ever reach the goal you are seeking, though, since I can not force myself to get my head around the groove, hip-hop, beats driven format of the contemporary music scene. It appears I am truly too old, 'cause I just don't even want to try.
So, color me antique, yellowed and smoke stained, faded and cracked.
Later
Albert