Well, I think you and your mother will drive yourselves crazy trying to do what you are trying to do. Come back down to Planet Earth. Planet Earth to davdud101 and mother. Borrow a good synth if you do not have one, and one that will sound excellent in the first place. (perhaps you need to try out a synth from the local music store and need it for a week. Before going to a local music store, practice the parts on the synth you have.)
Next record the parts from the synth that uses way better players and sample software than probably both of you can actually play. (maybe not but then again, it is professional sounds on a synth done that way in the first place).
Combine the parts (changing the effects out of the synth recording it (and having some reverb and other things may just help add to the effects of the room, but never over-do it, always less but not dead effects).
No one that I know of in the world does this kind of music and stuff without having professional people around, professional rooms to do it in, and in the end - sound stages set up by professional people. It is all fine and well to think that way, but really in reality it is a lot harder to achieve without years of experience and practice. Come back down to Planet Earth and do what will make it sound as good as it can be.
If you think a lot of people will know the difference between real instruments and a synth, then I think I would have to disagree with that. If you have real instruments, then they may decide that your egos are so big, that you could not find the other people who can play the real instruments and did not have a room or sound stage to record it on in the first place, and well, it came out like it did, an attempt to sound professional but could not be done or the people could not get together and show up in the church in the first place (??). Nothing wrong with not being able to afford it in the first place, but with a synth and a decent attempt that what you did, still was done by both of you, it did not sound bad, and was not an attempt to feed your egos about what actually could be done and was done in the end when it came to perform it.
Yes, other people have gone through the same things, and still perhaps some people will try it. Fine, if you attempt this all with real instruments and playing the real parts of the music, make sure you can do it all in the first place, or just get back to reality and do what will not sound bad, playing the parts on a synth and making sure it comes out correct in the first place. Unless doing a solo adding to a synth, the synth wil probably be smoother overall for the music and good luck trying to balance all the real instruments out to sound good as a mix in the end. That is a lot of work, and you and your mother may not really have the time to actually finish it before the Big Event. To me, get the real people, get the real sound stage (or church), get the time and get it together before when the Big Event comes, or really think of what can really be done, and solve what you both are doing by really thinking about how it will turn out, not dreaming how it should turn out, because a lot of times, it may not turn out in the end, and all that time will end up with nothing but cancelling out of it, because it could not be done.
Just an opinion, not a reference about anyone and what they can achieve. Make sure you both can achieve it.
And there is a volume pedal on a synth like an organ in a church and well, playing the part better may be all that has to be done, even if it does not sound real to either of you and you wish it was real instruments.
Well, good luck with it.