jbow


You have to remember the first rule of the happy home life: If mama ain't happy, ain't nobody happy!

My wife is a "frequent talker".
1: She changes subjects in the middle of a conversation.
2: Gives her commentary while somone else is giving the facts (or the real commentary) on TV.
3: She begins talking before she gets in the room or when she hears me coming. (I never know what she is saying or talking about).
4: She talks to herself. In the kitchen when I am in the den, just loud enough so I can hear.
It is all maddening but it will never stop.
 
If she is talking while some talking head is saying something I am interested in, I usually say STOP. If it is the same thing I have heard 100 times in response to some similar thing, I just say OK, over an over, until she stops. When she starts talking when I am not in the room I use my most frequently use word... "WHAT"?
My hearing is not the best and I have a hard time understanding either one when two people are talking at once.
If I am doing something that requires no talking, like reading or recording I tell her in advance to please not talk to me while I am doing this. If I am reading or studying something I will completely lose my train of thought if someone talks to me and will have to go back a ways to get my place again.
 
One of the things that bothers me the most is when we/if we are watching something on TV and I go to the hall bath for a quick weewee... inevitably she will laugh loud and long. Then when I get back say, "roll it back you have got to see this". It is never anything any different than the other tripe but I usually just play along. I know it is harmless and she is well meaning and I know she loves me so I put up with most of it and just go along. It would be really petty of me to complain all the time... however I usually DO say something if she starts talking to me before I get in the room or when she talks to herself and I have to ask if she is talking to me.
 
I think one of the hardest things for a man to learn is that a woman has a primal need to tell and to ask, either when she gets home or when you get home. She will ask a bunch of questions most of which will have an answer of yes or no. If someone calls, she will ask, "who was that"? A: "Smith". What did he say? A: "nothing"... "well I know they didn't say nothing..."  
You have to find a balance between a mans tendency to want to say nothing and know nothing and a womans need to tell and know everything.
 
Bottom line... I am pretty sure ALL women are frequent talkers.
 
J

nope - not mine.  her sister, however, is EXACTLY as you describe! 
 
during Thanksgiving we go to my wife's sisters' house.  in order to have any input into the conversation, you HAVE to interrupt her or she would carry the entire conversation by herself!
 
my wife, on the other hand, nope.  she's not a talker at all.  in fact, other than the fact that she's definitely a beautiful woman - she's more like a guy than many guys I know.  One year for Christmas she wanted an air compressor and nail gun so she could finish the crown molding in her room. 

paulo


He, he....wondered how long it would take for the Danziman to chime in on this....just a feeling ya know !

Don't ever change Danny - wouldn't want you to be any different. In fact, it's as well for you that I don't live anywhere near ya or you'd never get any work done lol !

Personally speaking, I often wonder why Mrs Paulo starts every conversation we have with ...."you haven't listened to a word I just said, have you?" 

Hahaha you rule Paulo, thanks for that! If you DID live around here, I'd welcome hanging out with you with open arms...and open guitar cases of course. :)
 
-Danny

You'd love this house then....


Audrey and I love to yap...and boy, do we yap!! LOL!!!


Mind, we now have 3 cats in here that do the same thing, so our house would probably be  bit much for some here....


But seriously, it really depends on your patience threshold...I work with a lot of elderly people in my business...of course, that being healthcare, and so that can be a little draining at times...many of them simply do not have a lot of folks who will communicate with them...so...here I come....boing...all of a sudden there they go...talk talk talk...

Thanks Danny, I thake your post as a compliment. Really, I have learned to deal with it plus I have a break. I am semi-retired, I only go to work when I want to. She is 8 years younger and has a CPA practice. She is at work three days a week most of the year and 5 days a week Feb through May... and it isn't non-stop as long as it is just the two of us... BUT.. if one of our daughters is here, forget it.

All things considered I am a happy man. She makes good money, does not bug me about things unless I really need it (sometimes I do). She has made my life better... 'sides, I gave my word.

I always read your posts.

@ Beagle: One year for Christmas she wanted an air compressor and nail gun so she could finish the crown molding in her room.

My wife used to be more like that, she painted every room in every house we ever lived in. She is stil a workaholic. She has her business in town and has two successful online businesses. She is on both Etsy and One Kings Lane... she gets about 1k a week from OKL plus her Etsy sales which are pretty good too. We have been married 35 years in April. I remember her telling me before we got married that my mom told her marrying me was a mistake. She said she stopped the conversation and told my mom to never say anything bad to her about me again, lol. Needless to say, I changed a bit when I got married. The year before I got married I had 14 W2s to file and only worked about 6mos of the year. After getting married I ony had one.. and ended up starting my own business in 1989. Marrige changes things if you take it seriously and marry well .
 
I do get annoyed sometimes but I usually just go with it or if I am really tired of it I will start cutting her off with answers like yeah, yeah... she gets the hint and backs off a bit. I know one thing for sure... I wouldn't want to start over with someone new. That would SUQ!!!
 
J