Mesh is right ... the quicker you make it clear that you have the upper hand, the happier you'll be. As soon as she sees she can get what she wants out of you by jabbing at you in a certain way, it's over. You're destined for a life of hell.

Or ... do what Moshkiae has done ... write women off all together and worship satan. Kind of 6 one way, half dozen the other kind of situation really though.

Good luck!

When her trap is running loud,
you must whip it;
when another word comes out,
you must whip it. 

Whip it good.

To actually answer your question, the best time to tell her is when you are ready to pack your crap, move out and get a lawyer.


Randy

rsp@odyssey.net


To actually answer your question, the best time to tell her is when you are ready to pack your crap, move out and get a lawyer.


Randy

That's just excellent advice, because... being married means communicating, working out diferences, coming to a common ground of co-existance in the same space. If you can't work it out, you wasted everyones time with your love. Hard truth.
 

To actually answer your question, the best time to tell her is when you are ready to pack your crap, move out and get a lawyer.

It is according to the woman. Some will cry, make you feel like crap.. like everything is your fault and you'll end up buying her flowers or candy... better ending.

Does having been married more than once make me an expert?

I think it does, so I can't freely share my thoughts I have to charge commission for my esteemed knowledge and experience.

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Im pretty sure Conquistador is being facetious, but I just can't be sure so I'm honestly trying to prevent the poor schlep from catching a waffle iron upside his head as he walks out of the room feeling all smug and manly after telling his lovely bride to clam up.

I'm pretty sure at some point on this board I related the story of a good friend of mine who found himself married to a girl who loved to argue. While watching tv in his office one day he heard some guy counseling a married couple who for some unfathomable reason decided it was a good idea to go on tv to have their private problems sorted out by a guy with a tv show. But I digress. At one point the host turned to the beleaguered husband and said " Bob..you gotta decide if you wanna be happy, or you wanna be right".

It was like a moment of clarity for my friend, who sat there slack jawed staring at the tv. He decided then and there that he wouldn't argue with his wife no matter what. He went home that night and she started in on him about some damn thing and after she finished her diatribe he just looked at her and said "ya know honey, your right". This stunned her into a prolonged silence. He walked over and gave her a gentle kiss on the forehead and said can I help with dinner?

They lived a pretty much trouble free life until she ran off with some clown she met on Facebook and moved to Montana to raise unicorns or some crap.

Eh.....what the hell do I know......we are all on our own with this marriage thing. 

Good luck compadres.

I'm happily married, but, I had a lot of alone time. She traveled for work 2 ~ 3 weeks out of every month. We planned our stuff, I knew I had time to do my music and made plans, no kids, life was good.

She has a new job now where she's a cubicle dweller, and if I were to be brutally honest, I'm starting to have some concerns about being in each others face every day. She's a completely different person now that she's stuck in one place all day long and it's being taken out on me and she doesn't even see it. She has almost zero tolerance now for things that bothered her, but never said anything about ...

I thought I knew all about conflict resolution, but the game has changed. <-- Another lesson ... the game does change as time goes on for many different reasons. Age, maturity, job situations, friend interaction, interests, finances ... things change and so do people.

Ok, now I'm depressed. Gotta go.

Heh.

To clarify...I am being facetious just messing around on here 

We've only been married a week and thus far .... It's been all sun shine and good.... As you would expect from a one week married couple 

Keep in mind we are both 42... And she's been married before ... We're not 20 years old and new to the ways of the world .. Wet behind the ears ect...


Plus we've known each other for 9 years ....dated 4 of them ....

But yes ....so far its  been pretty perfect for a one week marriage  ....


Her 14 year old daughter may give me more gray hair ...but the 18 year old son is laid back ...good kids both of them .... But still kids 


Plus she actually likes that I am a musician ..... I got the winning side of this deal for sure ....what she want with me ?

It's good and I am grateful 

She's a wonderful lady.

I can vouch for that.