Beeps it is interesting that you are not listening to music so much because it is actually the very thing to do. We did it at the start and it was the very thing that got us into music in the first place. I was lucky enough to learn the art of extended Hi Fi listening where we took in whole sides of albums without any interruption or disturbances. Try doing that these days. It is quite hard to set up now for some reason. But I was able to do it then. Something younger people cannot do now.
Being able to enjoy a music experience is only a state of mind and you can switch off all the analysis stuff and just let it hit you and wash over you and you can take it all in for what it is as a whole.
I teach post production mixing for TV as one of the things I do. This involves precise mixing of dialogue, music and effects etc.. When I go to the movies if I am not careful I will be analysing the soundtrack mixes. Then one could easily miss something in the film. I switch off to all that and just focus on the film or the music if I am just listening to music.
I have been going to a lot of Jazz gigs live lately mainly because my son is a great Jazz drummer and he is playing with some real heavy weights here in Australia. It is exciting to hear him in that situation. The music gets pretty complicated at times and one could get engaged in trying to work it out, but no you have to forget that and just take it in. Let the melodies and the music carry you. Don't fight it so much. Go with it. Enjoy it.
Same thing with hearing Chick Corea and Return to Forever. One could analyse the gear being used, the PA, the mix, the breakdown of the music etc. Better to not waste any energy on it. I just sat back and got into it and listened to it as it was intended to be heard. It soared into the heavens and was breath taking. That is what I remember of that gig. Nothing technical.
It is OK to listen to a nice Jazz guitarist though and listen to what is going on there. After all many Jazz guitarists have done the same. The ability to listen inside a mix and hear individual things is also a skill and very handy. Listen to the root notes of the bass. Spells out the progression. Listen to the chord voicings above to get the chords and also how they are voiced. Then in a nice solo you might hear a nice line against a chord so you put into your DAW and slow it right down keeping on pitch and write out the notes. But if you go to a Jazz gig then switch all that detailed listening off and learn to hear it all as a complete whole