"Trying to use the step sequencer in Sonar to triggrr the sounds"It's unclear to me whether you are using SONAR's Step sequencer or iDrum's own step sequencer inside SONAR.
I've never used iDrum, but reading the description on Izotopes site I tend to think it can't be triggered from outside at all(??) Maybe it's meant to be used with it's own sequencer only? Just speculating here....