Welcome, Sue.
Did you get the Steinway expansion pack for Dimension Pro?
If so, Sonar cannot directly access the Steinway sound. It is not a VST, but a sample set that opens in Dimension Pro.
Insert DimPro, then open the Program Browser.
Click F5 to refresh the browser, and show newly installed programs/samples.
At this point, the Steinway should appear in the program list, and you can select it.
If that's not the case, or you need more guidance let us know.