Thanks for all the help people. I added a send on the main vocal to a separate bus with, for the moment, EQ-Breverb2-PC4K S-type compressor ProChannel modules.
That makes for a lot of things to adjust and they all interact a lot.
At first I had just the highs coming out of the EQ but after Guitarhacker's comment I went to a bell shape and it does sound better. I've also found that compressing the heck out of it seems to help, but the noise floor is then pretty bad.
When I bring this buss into the mix there is a very distinct point between a voice that is too up front/small room and a voice lost in space. A point where the voice just fills out, really cool.
I still have to play around a lot with this, but I can see where things are going. I like Danny's idea of adding some whispering air as an overdub but that will have to wait for my daughter to get around to recording that. Her voice is not at all airy (she's an alto) so that doesn't help.
And I'm not sure she'll appreciate what I've done to her voice :-)