if it's only the snare that's causing the most problems, just put a compressor on the track with the snare.
it takes a while, and some experimenting, to come up with the correct settings for the compressor to work the peaks the way you want them...
just google.....
you'll find tons of 'suggestions'....
but the point is, you identify the worst offenders, and focus on those....
and let the rest ride.
then when you bring it all together, you change focus on EQ settings, and look for 'PILE_UPS'...
such as the bass being eq'd the same as the kick, and the middle of the snare masking the vocals, stuff like that.
but as far as peaks go, limiters, and compressors, are your friend.
but there's no point in compressing the entire drum buss, when it's only the snare that's offending.
plus, there's almost no way you'll find a buss compressor that works for the snare but doesn't kill the kick, etc....
and don't mess with multiband, at least not in the beginning.