I think you are very right
Dave. The best anyone can do is to listen while making any sort of adjustments to phase on one of the mics and just go for the sound you want to hear. The fact that phase angles are going to be different for different parts of the spectrum could be used to advantage.
That plugin that
Mike refers to is very interesting and you can alter the phase angles of various parts of the spectrum. You could use your ears to get the bottom end of say a kick drum happening. Then turn your attention to the mid range and change the phase angle of the centre part of the spectrum. It could be a good way to alter the sound of the kick before any EQ is applied. An advanced type of tone control.
That approach would work with guitar sounds too using two mics.
Tweaking phase angles on close mics when distant mics are present is still not the preferred way. I was in a hurry
(what happens under severe time pressure and wanted a quick 5 channel drum sound) did an interesting drum recording recently where I use two figure 8 mics to capture 3 toms by putting them in between the toms
(one between hi tom and mid tom and the other between mid tom and floor tom) and facing their null points around the snare and kick. They piked up the cymbals nicely as well. Amazingly low snare and kick spill on those tracks resulted. The other three did kick snare and hats. I pulled a great drum sound fast. Being such a lovely player
I balanced cymbal and tom levels in my playing. Less time needed later to sort out. The two figure 8 mics panned rather nice too.
What happens under pressure is you can suddenly devise quick and very time saving ways of doing things eg to capture a good drum sound and spend little time on it later in the mix. It always turns out well usually. There is a situation where you would NOT be spending an hour tweaking the phase angles of mics to get the drum sound right.
I don't get into too much phasing problems because often I am composing with and work with synths and things and I am dealing a lot with independent samples and outputs etc. And when I do record drums
(and anything acoustic) I often use the approach I mentioned above of recording the bass filtered O'Head sound.
(or the complete O'Head sound with all the bass in but not use the close mics much, love that sound too) Interesting how under pressure one can alter their approach and get good results in a simpler manner. It is also very interesting to see how your DAW performs under real pressure too especially when the user gets into a serious power usage mode.
(eg non stop and fast!) That is another story but I can say Studio One excels in this mode.