Man, I love this place! :)
I'll probably take an hour or two to shop for new music today, following you guys' recommendations.
In fact, the more I think of it, I guess the "female vocalist" part is totally secondary for the moment - no vocals have been cut, I usually just record an instrumental demo and give my wife a chart w/ a very basic roadmap of where the melody could go, something to work around. Sort of "join the dots".
At the same time, I use those demos as a learning tool for me to figure out how to make it all work mix-wise, which in turns, affects the way I record and arrange to an extent.
I've avoided Nightwish for a couple of reasons - one being that I tend to absorb new influences in a blink - which is cool when you have to write jingles "in the style of x", but no so much when I'm working on my own stuff. So I'm making an effort to avoid any subconscious reference to them.
The comparison has always plagued my wife's ex-band, even if if people recognized that they were different. It's a territory where you'll always be judged against Nightwish as a reference.
Funny thing is that my wife actually came this close to singing for them when the first singer quit. But the guys thought she might be a bit unstable or want to settle down and make babies, and jeopardize the band's future. So they hired Anette instead...
To this day, I still don't really know what they sound like, except for the material my wife has recorded w/ them. And I've tried to keep it that way. But I'm guessing that what I'm woking on is probably a bit more "pop" - no intricate song structure. The classical influences is in the chord changes and voicings and melodies...
Danny, I may take you up on that offer. I know you offer consultation services, I'm just trying to figure out how early in the process is too early to ask for guidance. We're far from the actual mixing stage, but as I said, this doubles as a learning process for me.
Incidentally, the one song I'm working on does indeed rely on drop tuning. Just drop D, but I'm guessing that it still has an impact.