its a 12 x 13 room with moderate space behind the speakers. maybe a full foot. I have about 60 sqfeet of aurelex panels on the walls and some cheap home made bass traps (burlap over thick foam). The good news is I got a decent handle on my bass issue now... tried it out again on that same bar PA system after an adjustment and got my mix better.. thanks for the input... I will have to change my monitor system to bigger speakers in the future..

Bigger speakers could actually make your problems worse!

There's nothing wrong with the speakers you have, aside from being weak in the extreme low end. But that's not the cause of your problems. It's trying to reproduce bass frequencies accurately in a 12x13 room - which the laws of physics make damn near impossible, even with gobs of bass trapping.

What you can do is take some objective measurements. The easiest one is to grab a copy of Ethan Winer's stepped sine project. Set up a mic (preferably omni) at the listening position and record the project as it plays. This will tell you in 5 minutes which frequencies are the biggest problems. 

Even if you can't get rid of the problem, there is tremendous value in just knowing specifically which frequencies the room is lying about.