To be fair, in order to offer a heavy bleed option, without doing it purely by fakery, the folks recording samples for stuff like BFD woudln't be able to do things like angle and place mics to reduce bleed. They need to get plenty of it so that it's available, and therefore most folks probably would turn it down somewhat, in order to get (albeit much more easily) what probably would have been done in most cases naturally via mic placement/angling.
So it's not necessarily 'fake' to turn down the bleed a good in BFD. Even back in the day plenty of folks worked to minimize bleed, according to the sound they were going for. Not everyone was looking to do Levi Breaks. I reduce it somewhat, but never a lot. It does mean that everything becomes interactive, which can be tricky. Change the snare EQ and suddenly other things can start sounding different, depending on how much they are bleeding into the snare mic.
But, again, since I use minimal direct mic's, bleed isn't nearly so much of an issue. Usually one of the kicks (wherever works best) and usually the top snare. Sometimes the floor tom if it's kind of weak in the overheads, which it sometimes is. But even then, they are mixed in fairly moderately, so the bleed isn't that big a thing.
The thing I started doing more and more was taking the time to audition various kits, and see what I could with a quick and miniimalist mix, mostly balance of minimal mics and one small EQ on the drum bus. If it was sounding very close after that, then I'd go with that one since it probably will require the least massaging. I'd prefer to do that than spend hours relentlessly tweaking EQ. Given that something like BFD, particularly with the expansion packs, gives you access to a number of kits that even high endy studios might not be able to keep around, you should make use of it.
And particularly snares, to play around with the snare that works best with minimal manipulation. One kit/share combo is almost always likely to have fairly close to the sound you want with just basic balance and a little EQ.