It's a tricky subject... I haven't read all of the responses? I think it depends mostly on the song? But secondarily, you can't put an album/CD out with 7 songs mastered at THIS LEVEL and one mastered at this level... I think that's the big question? With the right techniques, you can still maintain a pretty intimate vibe with a "pretty loud" overall volume. It takes more skill than I posess. But I know it can be done.
What should be troubling is the apparent level of "bashing" being done here by some? I taught my 9 year old son how to deal with bullies... I think more people should have been taught this lesson at an early age. P.S., the bullies "don't pick on him anymore..."
The "Internet" makes it soooo easy to be a bully though? ;-) Especially for those who never stood up to one when they were growing up...