Mathew, I'm a big Play user. Your system is 10 times more powerful than mine… I never have problems with Play. I'm a "light" user, but i have templates with 10 instances of Play with master key switch instruments in each and only 8gigs of ram. I never come close to stressing my system. However, there are some settings in Play that can affect performance if you change from the defaults… You might try the Soundsonline forum for info about specific settings…and you should make sure your Play is up to date.
That being said, I have, in the long past, had an issue with transferring or opening an old project with instances of Play (after upgrading to a newer Sonar version or a newer version of Play) where one of my Play instances did, indeed, become corrupted. Traced it down by freezing/unloading each instance until I found the offending instance. Then it was just a matter of deleting the offending instance and reloading another instance and re=connecting the ins/outs of the midi tracks.
In your first post, you mention "multitasking". Are you connected to the Internet while working? Are you connected wirelessly? Any antivirus programs running? All three of these things can randomly affect your performance, I believe...
Best,
Rob