I am a software developer, so spare me "tech police" routine.
The fact that SONAR is popping a dialog for a driver that is greyed out and not even selected is a BUG. At the very least it is an undocumented feature. There may be some way external to the software to workaround this bug.
This driver does not show up in any other audio programs. Cubase, Samplitude, Ableton, Studio One have worked fine.
RME drivers are solid, this was a minor release with 3 tiny unrelated features addressed. There is a .0001% chance it is the driver, but since last release of SONAR was prior to latest RME patch, very very unlikely.
Another RME user in this thread reported getting this same problem, for which he came up with a workaround he cant remember, but it did not involve an RME patch. Most likely explanation a SONAR bug. Its possible to modify the system to avoid getting the bug, which is what you are suggesting. That is called a workaround.
In software world, finding bugs is a good thing. Acknowledging them instead of dismissing the user is the way they get fixed.