I've decided it boils down to "different strokes for different folks"...
My dearest uber intelligent buddy bought into X3 at my suggestion but just couldn't grapple with it and ended up in Ableton. We're both pretty smart... and at this point, He's happy/I'm happy...what was "intuitive" to him isn't the same for me... but I can't imagine creating what I do on Live...
After all his feedback/frustrations, I decided to try Ableton and Studio One2 just for the heck of it but ended up extremely frustrated after a couple weeks...so many things X3 allows/enables or which are just intuitive to me now....do not appear possible; I became frustrated very fast. I came away feeling S1/2 was more a toy than my ideal DAW... Now whether this is true or that I haven't "immersed" myself enough in the others to see their genius, I don't know...Studio one really seemed limited and Live just was so different...and lacked features I've fallen in love with, like "comping". Each may be really great but I don't really care! Comping, track templates alone are unique enough and the rest is heavenly gravy.
Learning curves are not that steep but X3 is really deep...and little things like where you've gotten stuck can be frustrating at first... X3 can do a zillion things I don't even contemplate... whenever I reach a wtf moment... I google/search and always end up with an "ah ha!"
I agree with others... watchin' the vids helps a lot.
and on your point about "custom", "All", "mix"... I do think the default should be "all" for beginners...
Not a problem once ur using templates/screensets...
I have to admit, I've spent many hours going....????? especially in earlier versions... not so much anymore. You wanna write off X3 this quick you're gonna miss the bliss. Just watch the comping vids and spend an evening... you'll never go back...
Although some people can be happy with the simpler stuff like mix-master... it definitely leaves lots less to learn...