Well even if there was a way to link two Sonars together, The audio export is not going to be from both, so you would still need to do as I said and transfer the audio from the 32 bit Sonar into the 64 bit version as an audio file.
The only way I can see keeping sanity is to either get the 32 bit version to play or upgrade. Or use the other drummers. A drum player is a drum player, it's the sample library you want.